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- Stop Losing Money: Here’s Why You Should Get Help With Your TaxesAccording to Benjamin Franklin, there are only two things certain in life: death and taxes. Unfortunately, this year’s April 18th tax deadline is fast approaching. With a tax code that is 74,608 pages long and changes being made yearly, it’s almost impossible for an individual to be aware of all the tax credits or deductions […]
- 5 Important Things Women Often Overlook Because They’re in LOVEI love my husband. I’ve known him for 20 years and we’ve been married for over 8 years. We have two kids together and a third on the way. Our lives aren’t perfect, but we certainly love what we have built. We’ve been blessed. But can I tell you a secret? My love for him […]
- 3 Things Women Hear When He Says, “We’re Just Friends” that Lead to HeartbreakYou are seriously dating a man (at least you think it’s serious because you are giving him all of your time), but he tells you that you are just friends. What does this mean? Most importantly, what do you hear when he says this? (READ: What a Man Really Means When He Says He Just Wants […]
- The Very First Thing You Should Do When You Want to Improve Communication with Your SpouseThe one thing that people often overlook, when they are trying to improve communication with their spouse, is some critical but necessary self-reflection. You see, when you are lacking in communication skills with your spouse, often times, its because the communication patterns, that were useful at one point in your life, are now outdated and just […]
- Step Family Life: 5 Very Real Concerns of a Biological MotherWhen my husband proposed to me, I was elated. He was finally going to put a ring on it after six months of dating. This was in 1999, so I realize this may seem odd. However, I knew in my heart that he was my husband and I told him this. I knew in my […]
- 5 Signs Your Marriage is Going to Be OKHave you ever gotten to a point in your marriage where you thought you and your spouse would never overcome a certain situation? So many marriages reach a period of time where the couple may question everything about their union. Stress, disagreements and just life can easily take us to a negative space where we […]
- 4 Ways to Prevent Emotional Baggage From Ruining Your New RelationshipsInitially when we meet people we meet their representative- the perfect, good behavior version of themselves. But, at what point do you meet the real person? As the relationship is growing towards monogamy and possibly marriage, when are the masks removed, allowing full disclosure to come into play? When do you meet, see and/or discuss […]
- Help! My Husband and I Don’t Agree on When It Is Appropriate to Give Our Child Access to a Cell PhoneDear Dr. Buckingham, My husband and I have different views about age appropriateness when it comes to the use of cell phones by our children.When is it appropriate to give a child access to your cell phone? What if one parent does not think the child will read his or her text messages? What if […]
- Black Buyers Beware: How to Avoid the Retail “Black Tax”I still remember the afternoon I went in search of a new car. Inside the Toyota showroom a Black salesperson casually strolled my way making amiable small talk. When I asked how much I could get off the sticker price (also known as the MSRP or Manufacturer Suggested Retail Price) he looked me straight in […]
- Couples: 5 Things to Do When You’re Sick and Tired of Being Sick and TiredHave you ever felt like, during a disagreement with your spouse, that you’ve been there and done that? Maybe it has started to feel like deja vu whenever you and your spouse are at odds. Arguing over the same behaviors over and over again is tiring. It will put an unnecessary strain on your marriage […]
- Stop Losing Money: Here’s Why You Should Get Help With Your Taxes
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Category Archives: Social Justice
Do I bottle it up & try to turn the page?
Do I write a rap & burn the stage?
How much does it cost to earn my cage?
They call me beast, cause they can’t discern my rage! Continue reading →
I am not suggesting that there will be an African exodus in my lifetime (though I would wholeheartedly support one). However, I am implying that each of us has a duty to understand the real trauma that our people are facing because of the tremendous brain drain that our continent is facing. Continue reading →
I remember being poor… Continue reading →
“Americans are very condescending when speaking to Africans…” Continue reading →
Is race something that only lives on in the minds of African-Americans? Continue reading →
Art is politics; and, it’s the weapon Kuweni Serious uses to, as they say, “fight the evil forces of apathy,” they saw plaguing Kenyan youth in the aftermath of the country’s 2007 elections. Continue reading →
I knew what a job looked like. I knew what making stuff happen looked like. I didn’t know what an educated black man in a meaningful career looked like. Continue reading →
If you haven’t heard of Nneka by now, maybe you are being intentional in making sure you don’t know what’s hot! She has traveled the globe pushing a message that cry’s for transparency, humility, and love. Check out her newest video, Stay.
In “My Soul is Heavy” Nekka takes us on a journey into the despair that her heart feels for her Nigerian people caught in the middle of the Niger Delta oil crisis.
With an entire continent’s concerns on her back, Nneka delves into the depths of Africa’s darkest realities to arise with faith, love, and hope on each of her 3 studio releases. The video “My Home” explores how her faith in God is the sustaining force that allows both her as well as millions of Africans to face the harsh circumstances the they face together.
Just in case you’ve have been sleeping under a rock; check out this link: http://illholiday.com/2010/12/15/337/.
Pray for a miracle! Avert a disaster…Save Troy Davis! Continue reading →
Here is a throwback from Mr. 3 Stax…
Being a parent isn’t easy. Its not easy when you are in a loving relationship with a soul-mate who has your back. It is especially difficult for those who are doing it by themselves. This song is dedicated to all those who give their family all that they have. I see you! We see you!
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Janette…ikz is back with a truth that needs to be told.
When I married my wife, I had to talk to her about a deep concern I had about the whole wedding process. This concern was something that I felt we had to settle before moving forward. It wasn’t concerning the ceremony or the planning process. It wasn’t even about the guestlist or participants of the wedding. No, I wasn’t concerned about the venue or even budget (errr. I mean, what working black man aint concerned about the budget?)
Well, more than budget concerns- I needed to talk about something that was a life or death issue.
I gave this term a line of it’s own because it deserves alot of consideration when expressing what kind of LIFE I’d like to live with the love of my LIFE. This decision weighed so heavy on my heart that I needed it settled before even planning the 1st detail of the wedding. We had to be on one accord and in total agreement about this one.
Much to my surprise, my lady was right with me. She understood that our symbol of marriage could be marred by the realization that a kid was walking around in a foreign country with no arms or no LIFE.
We decided to bypass the whole Kimberly process and purchase diamond free wedding bands. Even though this didn’t sit well with friends or family who were looking for that fat rock to adorn her hand, we knew we wanted to embark on a marriage built on mutual consideration for the impact of our covenant.
5 years later, I have never regretted skipping the possibility of buying my wife a Conflict (BLOOD) Diamond.
Check out what the Nigerian Soul Superstar “Asa” had to say in verse 2 of her hit song “Fire On The Mountain”
05 Fire On The Mountain by mooney
Will we kneel forever? Nationally known poet, Allyson Horton asks that question in response to an art installation that is scheduled in her hometown. Feel her passion in this piece titled invisible or nameless in naptown…
The artist who is developing the piece for public viewing is the internationally recognized artist named Fred Wilson. Mr. Wilson is known for making art that leaves entire communities talking. He has been the very opposite of fearful in tackling race in his pieces.
So why would Allyson say, “Will we kneel forever?” Does Allyson hate art? Does she think that all art should be Afro-Centric? Does she have beef with Fred Wilson?No. No. and No!
Allyson is one of many community members who have strong concerns with placing a replica of a freed slave monument in front of the Indianapolis City County Building. One of the major concerns is that the fact that the piece will be directly visible by prisoners who are currently jailed at the City County Building, of whom a large percentage are African American Males. Other community members are angry with how the exhibit has been marketed by the Cultural Trails Commission of a depiction of an African American slave being empowered. Still, many others are upset that the piece will be shown at all on a cultural trail instead of in a gallery. Tuesday October 19th, 6pm will be an opportunity for the entire community to speak to the man behind the slave. Fred Wilson will speak at the Historical Madame Walker Theatre 617 Indiana Ave. Indianapolis, Indiana 46202. He will address concerns about his piece titled E Pluribus Unum.
The entire community is encouraged to voice their viewpoint at this meeting. This is sure to not only be a meeting of the minds, but also an engaging dialogue on the history and current status of race in America.
Many people are waiting on a ‘real’ leader to step up and solve the problems we are facing. They would argue that our country is standing still, and in some cases sliding backwards because, politicians just don’t get it. Some would say that it is because most of our religious leaders are either corrupt or worse-cowards. Even other people would say that greedy businessmen are the problem.
What I believe is that the problem is me. I am the problem. Everyone like me who has passed up on an opportunity to help themselves is the problem. Anyone like me who has overlooked the opportunity to share their extra(knowledge, time, money, strength) is the problem.
The buck doesn’t stop with the politician-it stops with me. It stops with normal people. We are the answer we have been waiting for. Everyone of us who is the problem…is also THE Solution.
For the past 14 months I have been working with a community organization called Public Allies that operates with the mindset that Everybody Leads. This simply means that everyone brings something to the table. There is no such thing as an extra person. Each person has something to contribute. Most people will contribute their time, talents, and passion, if given the right opportunity and support.
Public Allies gives that support to young adults who have made up their mind that they don’t look like a leader, leadership looks like them.
Without programs like Public Allies, people keep addressing problems the same way. We look for the expert to tell us what our problem is and how they are the only one who is able to fix it for us. Its this kind of thinking that has us stuck on an escalator with no good sense to walk the rest of the way. We are so used to depending on others, that we miss the opportunity to solve our own problems.
So when you wake up and look yourself in the mirror, remember you are looking at The New Face of Leadership!